Rory Fleming Richardson, Ph.D., ABMP, TEP
Below are some important discoveries that I have found of value and gained through experiences that I have had, both as a person and as a professional. I firmly believe that helping others is a biopsychosocialspiritual task which requires a lifetime commitment. This is the journey that I have elected to choose and that God has allowed me to follow. I hope these are of help.
- Love and caring is a covenant with our Maker to steward life on this planet.
- The act of trust must honor the character of the person and their ability to follow-through.
- History, although flawed, holds clues to the future. It is our responsibility to look for evidence supporting or negating details which have been skewed.
- Without making mistakes, we would not learn. Our responsibility is to learn and grow from those mistakes.
- At times, leaders lie. Sometimes it is to protect us. Sometimes it is to feather their own nests. Unfortunately, lies bread distrust. Sometimes that mistrust is warranted. Sometimes it is with good intentions, but it is an act of not trusting.
- It is important to understand the difference between a gift, a helping hand, and enabling.
- It is essential to be assertive of what is right.
- Our life on this planet is finite. We each need to decide if there is more that this short 100 year stint.
- It is likely that those who have more time in this life have stories and lessons that they would like to share, not just for their benefit, but for those who are younger.
- Science provides limited clues as to how nature and the universe works, but there is always more to learn.
- We can elect to see the ugliness and hell on earth, and we can elect to see the beauty in nature and living things which are like a heaven. To live this life, we need to be aware of the former while not getting stuck in it.
- Compulsive collecting of things and wealth is an act which only ends with having to let go of it all eventually. Take caution in its importance.
- The most important thing at the beginning of our life, and at the end, is love, a smile, a caring hand, the connecting with another.
- To forgive releases those harmed from the haunting of the harm done and the judgement that the offender has to face.
- Arguments and disagreements should only be ended with the words I forgive you, I am sorry, or Let us work it out.
- Don’t act on temporary problems like they are permanent ones.
- If you are worried or stressed about something that you can check out, stop worrying and check it out. This includes if someone tells you others are upset with you or have an attitude toward you. Ask the others and check if it is true, and try to work it out.
- It is better to do without something until you can afford it than to spend money you do not have.
- Things are either something that you can change or control, or they are not. If you can change or control them, do what you believe is best based on research, knowledge and values. The things you can not control are in God’s job description, and you need to let them go.
- Helping others and doing something that you feel has a purpose, empowers you and feeds self-worth.
- The greatest danger is to be so invested in the trappings of this life (100 year stint) that we are willing to risk our eternal existence.
- Beware of individuals who see this life as all that there is, because they are likely to be willing to risk everything for earthly gains.
- Acts of love, kindness and compassion nurture hope, energy and feelings of purpose.